Pegging
Pegging is the practice of a woman using a strap-on dildo to anally penetrate a male partner. The term was coined by sex advice columnist Dan Savage in 2001 after a reader contest, and it has since become the widely accepted term for this specific configuration of strap-on play. Pegging challenges traditional sexual roles and offers unique physical pleasure through prostate stimulation.
Why People Enjoy It
For the receiving partner, the primary physical appeal is prostate stimulation. The prostate — sometimes called the "male G-spot" — is a walnut-sized gland accessible through the rectal wall that, when stimulated, can produce intense, full-body orgasms that many men describe as qualitatively different from and more powerful than penile orgasms alone.
Beyond the physical, pegging involves a compelling role reversal. The man receives; the woman penetrates. This inversion of conventional heterosexual dynamics can be thrilling for both partners. For the man, being penetrated requires vulnerability, trust, and surrender. For the woman, wielding the strap-on provides a visceral experience of active, penetrative sexuality and the power that comes with it.
Many couples report that pegging deepens their empathy for each other's sexual experiences. Men gain firsthand understanding of what it feels like to be penetrated; women experience the perspective of the penetrative role. This mutual understanding frequently improves their overall sexual communication.
Equipment
Strap-On Harnesses
Available in various styles: underwear-style harnesses that pull on like briefs, jockstrap-style with adjustable straps, and corset-back styles that create a secure fit. Look for comfortable, adjustable designs with a stable O-ring that holds the dildo firmly.
Dildos
Silicone is the gold standard: body-safe, easy to clean, and available in every size. For beginners, start with a slim dildo (around 1-1.25 inches in diameter and 5-6 inches in length). Smooth, tapered designs are easier to insert than bulbous ones.
Lubricant
The anus does not self-lubricate, so generous lubricant is essential. Water-based lubricant is compatible with all toy materials. Silicone-based lubricant lasts longer but should not be used with silicone toys. Thick, gel-consistency lubricants tend to work best for anal play.
- Go slow: Anal penetration should never be rushed. The receiving partner controls the speed and depth
- Use plenty of lubricant: Reapply frequently. There is no such thing as too much lube for anal play
- Start small: Begin with a finger or slim toy before progressing to a strap-on dildo
- Warm up: External massage, gentle finger insertion, and gradual stretching prepare the body
- Pain means stop: Discomfort and fullness are normal; sharp pain is not. If it hurts, pause, add lubricant, and try a smaller size
- Flared bases only: Any toy used anally must have a flared base to prevent it from being drawn inside the body
- Hygiene: Clean toys thoroughly before and after use. Consider using a condom over the dildo for easier cleanup
Getting Started
Begin the conversation openly. Many men are curious about prostate stimulation but hesitant to raise the topic due to social stigma. Frame pegging as what it is: a pleasurable activity between a man and a woman that has nothing to do with sexual orientation.
Start with external prostate massage (through the perineum) or a single lubricated finger during other sexual activities. If this is enjoyable, progress to a small butt plug or prostate massager before introducing a strap-on. The first pegging session should prioritize comfort and communication over performance — go slowly, use abundant lubricant, and let the receiving partner set the pace entirely.